Balance

My word for 2021 is balance.

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I would be willing to go out on a limb and bet most people today do not know what a balanced life–work life, home life, and personal life means.

O.k. so then, what does it mean?

The best technical definition I can find is–“having the right amount”, “not too little and not too much.”

Each of us should know what this feels like, but many of us either haven’t felt balanced in a long, long time, or are unable to split our time in equal parts, or no matter what we’ve tried feel unsuccessful in attaining the “right amount.” Whenever I hear things about balance, I always think of the phrase–“all work and no play make Jack a dull boy.” Which, if not dull, certainly exhausted…

I can tell when I’ve worked too many hours and not taken enough time to rest–I feel tired, grumpy, even resentful at times.

I can also tell when I haven’t been having enough down time from work or my responsibilities at home–I feel unhappy, depressed, kind of dull, I guess? and grumpy.

If things keep going this way and rest isn’t balanced with work there’s burnout. The same as if all I did was play and sleep. My bills wouldn’t get paid, my husband and I wouldn’t be eating right, our cat would starve and so on and so on.

There are seasons in one’s life where projects come along and fun and rest aren’t equal to work. The best we can do is try our best to eat well, take a break here and there, prioritize all the steps in our project, extend the timeline if possible, and march on. That said once the project is completed you cannot forget about the down time you and your body need and just as important the time you need to spend being present for your family.

The three best tips I can give you for finding balance, to re-balance, and to live a more stable life are:

  1. Let go of the idea that you need more of something, everything, and be happy with what you already have. Don’t work yourself to death for low priority things. If you’re working overtime to pay down debt that is one thing. If you are working overtime for things–there are always going to be more things you want, and want, and want.
  2. Prioritize your time every single day at home and at work. Tackle the most important things as soon as you can, break up big projects into smaller ones if you can, and if at all possible don’t bring work home with you.
  3. Make bucket lists for spring, summer, fall, and winter so you always have something fun to look forward to!

Until next time, stay safe!