I promise this post isn’t a lecture or a set of how-tos for setting goals. Rather, I’d like to think that it will be my way of explaining how very vital and necessary setting some (even one) is to your mental and physical health. Sitting at my desk the other day, I overheard a co-worker say “I’m not setting any resolutions or goals this year–I’m just going to let the pieces fall wherever and whatever happens.” My first reaction was to almost choke on my coffee but instead, I just sat at my desk trying to imagine what kind of perfect world this person lives in where everything is left up to chance?
Because whether he knows it or not he set goals– he just doesn’t sit and write them out and hold himself accountable for them like a lot of other people do. And that my friends are exactly why so many people look at goal-setting as the enemy. Let’s look at the top three reasons why people don’t/won’t set goals
- Fear- fear of failure.
- Inability to commit to a plan–hit the start button.
- Not knowing what you want.
I’ve noticed that by setting goals I have:
- Something to look forward to every day.
- Something that motivates me to stay on course.
- A way to measure personal commitment to any one given thing.
- Training in focusing, motivating, endurance, time management, working efficiently.
- An accurate measure of attaining goals.
- Learned how to stay on task–completing projects and personal goals.
- Learned more about my strengths and weaknesses and how to improve both.
Don’t forget that at any time you can reassess your goal–restart, lengthen it, shorten it, edit it, amend it, etc. Within reason and before you scrap it or write it off as failure reassess! Examining, reexamining your goals/objectives teaches you how to set realistic goals, your limits; strengthens your plan, and helps you to reach your goal more effectively and successfully. When you sit down with a piece of paper in hand to write out your goals for the year, month, week, or day first and foremost you need:
- To know what you want.
- And believe you can get it.
If you sit down and have no clue as to what you want–not even a general idea then whatever goal you write down will not be a clear goal in your mind. If you know what you want but inside don’t believe you can get it–you never will. It’s that simple.
Several years back I was one of those non-believers in goals. I thought setting goals was a time waste and that certainly if I wanted something bad enough, I’d achieve it. I also felt setting goals was for people that needed extra help–certainly not me, and that I didn’t have the time to sit down and write things out. Turns out I was the perfect person to learn how to set goals because as it turns out goal-setting is one of the main reasons I made it through college, internships, long commutes, and finally at long last being able to do some things in life that I’ve always wanted to do. If I’d never taken the time to understand goal setting and then setting some I would still be sitting on the sidelines stressed to the max wondering why I wasn’t getting anywhere in anything I was doing.
Not setting goals doesn’t relieve stress. Not having a clear picture of what you want, not believing in yourself, and never getting to where you want to go–stresses you out.
O.k. a little lecture but I’m telling you that setting a goal, putting into place all the things that can make your goal a success, then moving forward day by day to achieve it, and then achieving it is such a wonderful feeling– a real confidence booster. A celebration and a step toward achieving everything you’ve set out for yourself, your family, and your career right there for you to enjoy.
Until next time–happy goal-setting and a happy, healthy 2020!